An Actual Conversation in an Actual Relationship Between a Single Mom and a Single Dad
Her: I hate being in limbo.
Him: Are we in limbo?
Her: Yes we’re in limbo!
Him: What are we in limbo about?
Her: We have two places, two lives, all this back and forth is all keeping our relationship in limbo.
Him: I thought we were…happy? I’m happy. I didn’t know we were in limbo
Her: Well cut it OUT! How can you be happy like this?
<Pause. Did I just say “stop being happy” to him? What? Smile at silliness of my statement…he smiles back.>
Him: I think we should go shopping for a ring in the next few weeks.
Her: :-)
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yes, yes, and YES!
Swati
How happy! Are you going to change the name of your blog?
Haha!! no way – that will always remain a part of me!! Plus it took me 7.5 years to get engaged…who knows how long the engagement will last…because it’s kinda fun!
Swati
Congratulations!!!!!!
WOO HOO!!!!1 WHAT A LUCKY MAN HE IS!!!!! CONGRATS MY FRIEND!!!
Congratulations Swati! Great news & what a lucky guy!
Thanks Rebecca – I am all smiles!!
Lauren and Alice – You got that right – haha!
Swati
OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG here we go again with you OMG OMG OMG OMG — I got a ring too — just around my tub.
Say what?!?!? How’d you do that? I need to know!?!? I feel like my relationship is at a stalemate, 2 places and no talks of changing that. Advice?
KELLY!!!
YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!!
Laughing so hard!!
Swati
Oh geez ThatOneMom…I feel like I am the last person who should be offering advice (but I will anyway)…my boyfriend and I had kind of been talking about “spending our lives together” and I think the guys walk away going “ok, great – we’ll do that sometime” and we walk away going “ok, great, I’m ready now”! I had always made it clear that at this age & stage in my life, I didn’t want to date somebody to 4-5 years to “figure it out” – not that I’m in a rush or anything – but I really find endless dating frustrating (though if it’s good for both parties, then it’s good). Honestly, my boyfriend had no idea I was completely frustrated with the “temporary” feeling of it all until I said I hated being in limbo (which may have been a yelp rather than a calm and gentle statement of fact).
Does that help at all?
Swati
How awesome! Congratulations!!!
Thanks Danielle – I am all smiles and dreamy-eyed (very syrupy today!!)
Absolutely…positively…Yes, Yes, Yes! Happy for you!!!
That’s terrific! Huge congratulations and I can’t wait to read about this next stage of your adventure.
Alysia
OMG, Swati!!! Soooooooooooooooooo excited for you guys. A big huge congrats to both of you. Does he know just how lucky he is to be getting you??? Big hugs all around!! xoxoxoxoxoxo
Swati, congratulations to you! I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you though I am dying from envy on a positive note!!!!!!!!!!
Lillian, Meagan Alysia, and Naomi – I love these messages (I need to go ring shopping more often
!) Definitely better the 2nd time around for me – and Naomi – he has been told plenty of times that he’s lucky – LOL!! (I’m lucky too…sigh….)!
Swati
I am so very excited for both of you! And the kids!! It gives me hope and it couldn’t have happened to a more wonderful and beautiful lady. Muchas Felicidades!
oh my! that’s pretty darn exciting! and what is our ring style of choice?
Congrats Swati! That is absolutely awesome!
Aww Shucks Tiia…now I am turning all red velvet cake RED
!
Thanks Stefanie – I am excited…2nd time is a charm I’ve heard!!
Hi Liz – my ring(s) of choice are 2 wedding bands – one platinum and one in gold (so I can switch off which one I wear based on the jewelry I’m wearing…). J. was relieved to hear I wanted just bands and no giant solitaire…til he realized that the bands needed to be sparkly – haha! I decided on bands instead as I know I’d never wear a solitaire. And he did a wonderful job with shopping (but that’s another post
).
Swati
And you thought you were in limbo?!! Congratulations.
PS – love how you told this story.
Whoohooo!!!!! Really?
Yay!!!!
OMG! Congrats! Glad I’ve been trolling around your site for single mom articles, Swati. Or I never would have found this!!!! LOL!
Thanks Practical Mommy = I know it’s kind of hidden (unlike the engagement post – which will be bursting at the seams once I write it!
Swati